It is simple:
We are either part of the solution or part of the problem.
The things going on in today’s world, I feel, have the potential to go really wrong or really right if handled properly. I do see a lot of men and women handling things right, in love, in forgiveness, in grace… but… I also see a lot that is handled wrongly, in hate, in anger, in a desperate attempt to be heard, seen, loved. Acting out in hate causes our actions to be ignored, not heard. Unfortunately, until we stand up to media, they will continue to only display negative and outlandish behaviors for attention and ratings, in turn destroying mankind for their own gain.
There are so many amazing and beautiful people out there that need to be shown to the world. So many heroes and sheroes that are overlooked and passed by for the 1% being ridiculous and embarrassing the cause and in turn embarrassing nation, the race, the religion… and that breaks my heart. I challenge each of us RIGHT NOW to spread and share all the Sheroes and Heroes of this world, and drown out the bad media! But… that’s another rant for another day. Today we are focusing on us, on the message that we are trying to get out, to celebrate our own (S)heroisms.
Focus, Find, and Tell your message,
unapologetically, with clarity and love.
What is your message? Are you portraying it? Are you being the change you want to see? Or, are you becoming the very thing you are fighting against? Fighting hate with hate, or are you choosing love? I beg you to choose love. When is the last time you actually listened to and heard someone yelling at you or spouting hate? Never.
It’s time to ask ourselves,
how can we handle this in love?
The energy we use to complain about something is meant to be used to fix the thing we are complaining about.
If something is bothering us, it means we are supposed to be fixing it. If something strikes your heart chord, that means you are a part of the solution, a part of the change. Not everything bothers everyone, simply because everyone has their own part to do in their own way. Your mission is not their mission and vice versa, they may be similar but never the same. Let’s be understanding of that. What can each of us to TODAY to start becoming part of the solution? What can we do to put our hearts into the solution and pour love onto everything to change it?
Hate never fixes anything.
It only worsens every situation.
Love is the only thing that can change anyone or anything.
Love can change the world.
What can we do right now ourselves, to shift our mindset, to change the way we view things, and to look at others through loving eyes? Men are not the enemy, women are not the enemy, race, sex, religion is not the enemy,
Write down right now 5 things that are bothering you. Now write down WHY they bother you. Dig deep, peel back all the layers to find your why’s. Our why’s are what defines us, what drives our life! They’re probably the most important thing!
For example, say you write “Men”. Well… let’s dig deeper… you can’t possibly dislike ALL men, so maybe you think you dislike a certain kind of man… pompous, arrogant, untrustworthy men? Nope, that’s not it either. Dig deeper, go all the way. What do you dislike about them? Is it possibly an action of one man? Is it really fair to the rest of men to be piled into the same category as the one that is horrid? For a deeper example… Do all men… say 5’9″ with dark hair and brown eyes named Trent that wears boots need to be wiped from the planet because they’re all horrible humans? No, that would be silly and very unfair to all the nice Trent’s ~ sorry if your names Trent bye bye! NO!
What if the next person who was meant to change your life in the most beautiful ways looks exactly like that, same name and all? Are you going to treat them badly? Do they deserve the punishment that old Trent does? Is that fair behavior? NO! What if old Trent was having a bad day and didn’t mean what he said or did, what if you were having a bad day and totally misinterpreted the way he complimented your socks or whatever… and turned it into a hatefest in your head! Can you right now, take responsibility for the “story” that you have held onto all these years that planted a seed of hate inside of you that turned into a kudzu that took over the world of man in your head? Wow, right? Not trying to bust anyone’s balloons here, just trying to get raw and real with you all, as I have been doing for myself and it’s allowed so, so, sooooooo much beauty to come out! Let that Shhhhhhtufff go! It’s complete lunacy!
Ok now, Write another list. Who has hurt you, write down their names, what they did? Focus on the situations, were you having a bad day? Did you misinterpret the situation? Were you understanding of their situation behind it? maybe their dog died or something, you don’t know! Dig deeper: uh oh… Truthbomb here… How many times have you punished yourself with it, after they hurt you, putting it on repeat in your own head, un-needingly beating yourself up for it, 1,592,487 times- FOR NO REASON! And now Even Deeper: Eeeekkk! How many people have you punished because of them or because of that situation? Being guarded, jealous, angry and not open to someone because of you not being able to let go and forgive the other person and be free to love yourself and others? We can only control us in ANY situation. Even if it’s a memory. Stop blaming others, stop trying to control others, that is not our job- thank goodness too! Change the story in your head, show mercy, grace, understanding, responsibility in ALL situations. Forgive them. Let it go. Burn the paper and never hold an ill feeling towards that situation again. Can you make that promise to me? to yourself? Forgive and Forget. Bless and Release. BURN THE BOATS- There is no going back!
Men are not the enemy,
women are not the enemy,
race, sex, religion is not the enemy,
WE ARE NOT THE ENEMY!
Let’s get real, No body’s perfect. There is good and bad in each of us. Yes, even in ourselves, the Ying and the Yang. What if the person you are hating on, just needs love to change? What if it’s us that needs love to change? GIVE IT! The Truth is…
We can only hate others if we have hate inside to give.
Get rid of the hate within!!! How? Simple, replace it with love. Replace bad people with loving ones, replace bad habits with loving ones, replace bad jobs with better ones- there are loving bosses out there I promise, maybe your boss needs love from you to change that relationship. Replace bad reactions with loving actions, replace anger with forgiveness, replace sadness with joy, replace meanness with continual kind actions. Pay attention, opportunities to love are EVERYWHERE. Figure out in EVERY detail, how you can love your way through it.
We can only love others if we have love to give.
We are the only ones in control of ourselves. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing, saying, telling you to do, how to feel, how to be. It doesn’t matter how they are behaving, what matters is what WE are doing, what WE are saying, and how WE are behaving.
What message are you trying to get out there? Are your actions speaking that message? You know the old saying, “Actions speak louder than words”- Are YOU being the change you want to see? Are you living the life you want to live? It’s not men, women, race, or religions fault that we are not where we want to be. It is our own. We are either taking the bull by the horns or letting that sucker trample us. NOONE can hold us back, EXCEPT US! We may allow others to borrow or steal our power, to hold us back, maybe to blame them, but at the end of the day, it is and will forever be OUR CHOICE. Get up, get out there and fight for it. We are all a human race. No one can hold us back if we don’t allow it!
P.S. I say these things in So much love, giving you back your power & giving you the strength and courage to fight for you. Fight for your message, but fight for the RIGHT things, not just to fight. FIGHT IN LOVE! <3 What is your message? Share in the comments, ONLY if it’s in LOVE! <3
I Love you all- to the ends of the earth! <3