Just Stop

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How many times do we change who we are for what we think someone else “may” think, say or react? Stop that! How exhausting! We should be who we are, and love who we are, at every stage, every place, every way. Just as we should do the same for others. But it has to start from within us! We will never be the same person from day to day, year to year, how boring would that be, neither will others! We have to stop judging ourselves so harshly, and stop judging others against what we feel they should be. We are our own person. Each and every one of us, and we are all amazing and beautiful in our own way. Own it! Let that person out! Start living in action, Stop living in reaction— Especially to an “assumed” reaction!

You be you, and I’ll be me.

We have to stop “assuming” what everyone else will think or say as we step out to do what we are called to do, we need to stop allowing others to give us permission to simply be! Give ourselves permission to be who we are called to be. Every day we should all striving to do the best we can with what we have. No one has been dealt the same hand of cards as you have. Allow others to be who they are, to play their own hand. But we have to allow ourselves the same opportunity and same grace. Look at your hand of cards. Make the best play- every day. Quit folding because you THINK someone may have a better hand, they’re probably bluffing. Stop folding because you think someone will make fun of your cards. Truth is, they are focused on their own hand, and probably worrying about what your thinking of them! Stop the cycle! Tell others how great they are, don’t let them wonder what your thinking or judging of them! Tell them all the amazing qualities they have! Speak life into everyone you meet!

We are not called to live small. We are all called to play big. To do great things. And at the beginning of the day, the only one judging you is you, And at the end of the day, the only one judging you is a loving, kind, forgiving God who knows your heart, knows your thoughts, knows you’re trying your best. He knows ALL the cards in your hand. He knows your adversities, your struggles, and He has given you everything you need to succeed in every way. You only need to be brave and have faith. Your version of God may be different than mine, and that is fine. You KNOW that deep down inside of you, you have everything you need. Stop listening to the thoughts of what  others may or may not even be thinking! They have their own life to worry about, What others think doesn’t even matter!

Judging a person does not define who they are,
it defines who we are.

We judge others by what we see inside of ourselves. If we have condescending thoughts or condescending friends we need to get away from them, if we are one, we need to stop. We should do everything we can to fill our lives with positive uplifting people who we inspire and are inspired by, and to become one of those people! I guarantee you that when you take a step in faith towards your goals that God, the Universe, whatever you believe in will build you a bridge full of amazing people who lift you up, who help you to take the next step, to help you to succeed. I know because I have done it, and I am so grateful for the people in my life right now! The truth is…

You have to crawl out from under the rock of judgment to fly.

The Rock of judgmentYuck! No… No one has placed it on us. It’s not something that has us trapped. It’s not even on top of us holding us down. We are CHOOSING to hide behind it, using it as an excuse not to soar. Using it as an excuse to not succeed. This rock has a name. It is fear…. and spoiler alert… It is not even real.

How we feel others judge us is how we judge ourselves.

When we change how we feel about ourselves on the inside, It will show on the outside! How we feel about ourselves is how is how others see us. It is completely in our control! Fix it from the inside! Just start. What we put in is what comes out. That affects everything in our lives, It affects what comes in and what goes out. Do we mean for our inner bully to come out on others? Probably not.


Inner Bullies, Create Outer Bullies. >.<

When we judge ourselves,

we accept judgments from,
and give judgments to others.

When we forgive ourselves,

we accept forgiveness from,
and give forgiveness to others.

When we abuse ourselves,

we accept abuse from,
and give abuse to others.

When we love ourselves

we accept love from,
and give love to others.

The point is- Everything we do starts from the inside, from the head, from the heart. This list could go on and on. We may not mean to abuse others but, if we are abusing ourselves, it will come out. The things that come out of a person’s mouth come from their heart, out of the heart comes their thoughts. We must fix our broken hearts. Clean out all the poison, the toxic thoughts, kick out the bully. and start filling it up with amazing goodness. Do not let anything bad back inside!

We should never judge someone period. Nor should we allow ourselves to think that someone else has the right to judge us.  We are to give ourselves and others grace, understanding, and love...  just as we would like them to do for us. Small minded people judge because they have no love within. They judge others because they live differently, sin differently, think differently, talk differently, act, dress, behave differently. They judge because they are too afraid to look within. No one fits in our box but us. Quit trying to shove someone else in there! Judge not, or we will be judged- It’s not their job anyways, thank goodness! It’s not our job either. What a burden that would be! A judge must know all sides to every story to be a fair and just judge. Honestly, who’s got time for that? You and God are the only one who knows your whole story, and if you make ONE agreement at all, ever,  to yourself, Please agree to always do the BEST you can with everything you do, say, believe, act, or work on… then you will never have to judge yourself.  

We teach others how to treat us
by how we treat ourselves.


At the end of the day, we all have to look in the mirror and decide. Did I live authentically today? Did I do my best? If the answer is yes, then be proud. Accept who you are, don’t worry about anyone else and just do your best at becoming better and better every single day! <3


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