What ever angers you, owns you.
We choose how we feel about things, and at first this is a foreign concept to most people. But, we do.
We choose what stories we attach to things, situations, people, moments, experiences in life. We choose the memory, feeling and effect they hold for us. We choose to keep old feelings or create new ones to attach to them.
Most of the time we choose before hand what attitude we bring to situations, moments and people. We prejudge a situation or person and act accordingly. We choose in every situation to love or not. To be angry, defensive, and overly sensitive. Reading more into everything they say.
We tend to let a bad moment grow into a bad day, week, or year. Or we can choose a different story around it.
When we choose a better story we win.
If someone has hurt us, we tend to focus on how they made us feel in that one very small moment, and yet relive that one minute in time for hours on end, reliving, repunishing, rechoosing that feeling/story/memory. Instead of changing the story. What if everyone changed their thinking into something more like…
“How can we choose Love in this moment?”
Pick a moment that bothered you, maybe someone said or did something very snarky to you today. Close your eyes and go over it by every angle and see how you can send this moment love, compassion and understanding.
Why did that person or moment bother you? Were you upset already? Why?
Were you having a bad day? Why?
Does everything about that person bother you? Why?
How many ways could you have misunderstand a situation? Tons.
How may ways can you find and choose love in the situation? Tons.
How could you have done or do your best to change the situation?
Many of us tend to act in reaction, not action. We tend to assume people feel certain ways about us and act on that assumption.
Imagine how differently you would act if you thought someone hated you? Now imagine how you would act around them if you assumed they adored you?
Imagine if you had overheard them say something so nice about you to someone else. Would you behave differently towards them afterwards? What if you heard them defending you, taking the blame for you, honoring you? How would that change how you feel, treat or behave around them?
What if instead of going around assuming people think the worst of you, you assumed everyone thought the best of you, adored you, and always had your back? Think of how freeing that is. Choose that!
Believe the best, forgive the rest.
Walking around as if we have a kick me sticker dunce hat on assuming everyone is crappy, out to hurt us or take us for granted is exhausting. Assume everyone loves you! And they will if you just love yourself. Show yourself the grace and mercy you deserve and show others the same. Assume everyone is walking around doing the best they can just as you are, and love them.
Let no negative thoughts fill your mind about yourself or anyone else! Be impeccable with your words, thoughts, feelings and actions. Let the self-judging and self-bullying end and give yourself a big forgiving hug instead.
Don’t get angry with yourself, or anyone else. Don’t allow anger in your life and you will always be free from judgement of others or of self.
Anger is poison in your life and has no place in your heart, soul or mind. Be free of it. Be allergic to it. Guard your heart from it, forever and always.
What are some stories of inner or outer anger you hold onto that you can change? Let us know in the comments! ❤️❤️